If you want to reach a divorce agreement without turning to the court, you may want to know what you can do to smooth the experience.
A mediator is your best bet for an easier transition from married life to a successful split, but what exactly do mediators do?
The job of a mediator
Forbes suggests divorce mediation for couples wanting a more peaceful split. Mediators serve as a way to reach that goal. A mediator does what their name implies: They mediate a couple as they go through a divorce. You and your spouse will attend sessions with the mediator in which you work together to come to a mutually beneficial and acceptable agreement on divorce terms.
The mediator will offer neutral third-party opinions, which is incredibly useful for helping a couple come to a resolution. Mediators also have training in de-escalation and argument management. This means they can ensure that any budding arguments do not get out of hand. At the same time, they manage discussions so everyone has a fair chance to speak their piece without feeling talked over.
What mediators cannot do
Mediators cannot make legal decisions for you. They cannot make a decision and force it on you, either, in the way that a judge or arbitrator could. It is up to you and your partner to figure out the bulk of the agreement, with the mediator acting as a guiding hand.
If you think this method will work for you, consider opting for mediation and seeing how it helps you solidify your divorce plans.